Have you just entered a relationship? If so, the chances are that you need some tips if you want to build a long-lasting relationship with someone that won’t take every last bit of energy from you. Cirilla’s will provide you with the best tips for handling and maintaining a healthy relationship, so keep reading and become an expert on relationships!
Do you remember all the nice things you did for your girlfriend during the courting phase while the two of you were still mingling? Usually, when two people hook up, the male’s affection decreases as they become accustomed to each other’s company. You find yourself not treating her as sweet as you did at the beginning of the relationship, and you don’t have as much energy to be nice and gentle as you used to. You have to keep in mind that your partner will notice this shift in affection, so you need to ensure you always stay sweet. Surprise her, get her out on some dates, hold her hand while you’re in public, and kiss her when you say goodbye–the usual. Doing these things will make sure the two of you always stay affectionate and have a healthy relationship.
Patience is not something men excel at. Although it’s considered a virtue, we, like men, tend to lose ours more often than we want to. It’s tricky, though, because you have to be as patient as you can with women. You have to be patient while you’re courting her, you have to be patient while waiting for her to finish her shopping, you have to be patient while she’s taking a picture of the food that just arrived at your table the list goes on. Learn not to be upset with the way your partner handles time when you are together, and accept that she takes some time to do things.
Be Curious About the Little Things
Women love nothing more than spending time with a man who cares about their little things. You need to show your partner that you’re paying close attention to what she’s saying and what she’s doing. Remember her birthday, try to remember the date when the two of you hooked up, pay attention when she gets a new haircut, etc. These are all the little things you can watch out for that will make her very happy.
Let Her Be Herself
A lot of men forget to support their partners. Your romantic partner is there to compliment you and not complete you. You need to show her that you treat her like a person and let her be herself. You need to let her do her things and grow as a person, which means that if she wants to do an Ironman, you need to support her, etc.
This one is obvious, but I have to write something about this tip. Respect is, for many people, more detrimental to a healthy relationship than love. Loving someone is easy, but respecting them is a bit harder. You need to try and respect your girlfriend’s decisions, life choices, actions, etc. All you can do is give your opinion on these if you think it can help her, but besides that, your job is to respect her and let her grow.
Shower Her With Affection
Men often forget to give their partners the affection they need after they spend a while together. Some forget while others are shy about showing their emotions or showing off their loved ones in front of their friends or family. Women love being showered with attention, which is why you need to do the little things which will show them that you still care. You only have to be careful not to overdo it and become clingy, as it can easily turn into a toxic relationship.
Communication is the most important aspect of any healthy relationship. Without communicating, you and your partner will fall off and break up in no time. What I mean by this isn’t the daily ‘how are you?’ texts. Good communication requires you to confide in your partner, tell them when something is troubling you, or even ask for advice on your plans. If you want to ensure healthy communication with your partner, you need to listen to her and pay close attention to what she tells you. Listening to your girlfriend will make her feel important and show her that you appreciate her in her life. It will also help you trust her, which will allow you to confide in her later on. All this will build a healthy foundation that will ensure you have a solid relationship.
Did I forget to mention that all women love surprises? There’s nothing that gets them going as much as a nice surprise, which is why you should give your best to take her on surprise dates, get her a gift or two every now and then, and generally try to be as spontaneous as you can, especially if you’re in the long run with your partner. Spontaneity ensures that your relationship stays fresh and kills the routine. Think out of the box, and come up with random plans and trips, which will, in turn, allow your relationship to blossom.
Make Her Laugh
Any woman out there would choose a man who makes her laugh over a handsome one. Even if you’ve got amazing looks, if you can’t make her laugh, your looks are for nothing. Yes, you can cook her a nice lunch and find your way to her heart through food, but making her laugh will cement her affection for you. Of course, making her laugh isn’t even possible if you don’t have the same type of humor, but you shouldn’t be with a person who doesn’t–that goes without saying.
Be As Honest As Possible
Being honest isn’t easy, but being honest is a sure way to have a healthy relationship with your partner. You need to tell her how you feel, what you’re thinking about, what you’d like to do together, etc. This is especially true when it comes to conflicts and arguments, as you don’t want to mask something that’s not true. You should also be sure not to be too blunt. If you’re being honest, tell the truth, but make sure you tell it kindly.
Talk To Her About Your Plans
Even though women love surprises, you need to tell your partner about your plans, especially if you’re making decisions on some major issues. You don’t want to make a rash decision for which you haven’t prepared your girlfriend. She won’t feel good about it, and she’ll think you didn’t want to include her in your plans. The plans don’t have to be only regarding your relationship; they can also be about your individual aspirations or your plans for the future. Even if you think you’ve got a plan she might not want to agree on, you should tell her and get her opinion on it. Two heads are always smarter than one, as they would say.
Don’t Take Her for Granted
One of the biggest problems guys all over the world face when it comes to relationships is taking their partner for granted after some time. Girls like to make their partners think that they’re always there for them, which spoils them and makes them take them for granted. This will happen to you if you’re with someone who truly likes you, but don’t let yourself fall into the trap. Stay committed to your relationship, show her that you care, but don’t forget to stay committed to yourself too.
Let Her Nag
Women wouldn’t be women if they weren’t nagging. It’s difficult to avoid conflicts and arguments with them, which is a fact you have to accept and not fight over. You need to understand that you’re both different people and that every healthy relationship needs fights in order to strive and survive. Try and stay as calm as you can during your conflicts and talk about them even after you’re done. Have productive conversations and let your girlfriend nag, as she’ll blow off some steam and eventually realize that the two of you are there to fight problems together and not fight against one another.
Work on Yourself
Another thing men forget to do when they’re in relationships is work on themselves. It’s super common to let go of yourself when there’s someone who showers you with attention and affection all day long. That’s why you need to work on yourself as much as you can. Work on your plans, fulfill them, come up with new ones, etc. You need to work on your career as much as you have to on your relationship. At the end of the day, women love it when their partner leads the way, as they’re happy to hold your hand and go by your side.
Now that we’ve reached the end of the article, hopefully, some of the tips here have helped you get a better picture of what to look for in a woman, how to act in certain situations, and what to do if you want a healthy relationship. Remember that relationships aren’t rocket science, so trust your gut, and everything will fall into the right place eventually.